Friday, January 9, 2009

Maybe I'm not quite ready for #3

Last night was a doozy.

Around 11:30pm (a popular waking time for both of my children) Derek and I heard Judah crying in his crib. Being the helpful, involved parent that he is, Derek got up to replace the guggie or remove the fat thigh from the crib slats or otherwise tend to whatever sleep-preventer he might happen upon. I stared up at the dark ceiling, asking God, please, for a full night's sleep. However, it quickly became apparent by the volume and intensity of Judah's cry that he was NOT going back to sleep, and Daddy does NOT have boobs. So in I traipse in my enormous purple robe.

Maybe if I top him off now, he'll sleep until 8! Yes!

Not so much.

If you have spent any significant time around small children, you know how effectively they are able to communicate without the benefit of speaking the native tongue. Judah dramatically rejected a midnight snack a la mama, and continued to cry, HARD, while Derek and I looked at each other, trying to read lips and speak between screams, frantically guessing at our 9-month-old son's charades. We actually considered the emergengy room at one point (a few hours in, mind you) but both of us remembered this story and decided to give it a little more time. And look for the simethicone drops.

A note on infant gas drops: they *might* work. For as often as they recommend administering them, and the amount of time they take for effect, it's really a toss up as to whether the drugs or the bouncing and jostling and HYSTERICAL WAILING loosened the bubble. After 8 hours of off-and-on crying, interspersed with brief periods of careful sleep with a baby on my chest in whatever position he found tolerable for 30 minutes at a time, I. Do. Not. Care.

At one point in the wee hours, the hours that moms of newborns know so well, the forsaken hours that aren't night but aren't yet morning when the whole world seems to be sleeping except maybe truckers and YOU, in one of those hours I heard from God.

I was feeling sorry for myself, the momma martyr, rocking Judah with *just* the right frequency and intensity to keep him from screaming, wondering if poor sleepy me would see my bed before daylight. The message that came was abrupt and clear: So you're sleepy? So what? You've deprived yourself of sleep for far less noble causes than this. This little tiny boy needs comforting, and I have chosen YOU for him.


{Speechless.}





I think it goes without saying that I'll be skipping my daily computer fix during naptime today, in favor of my bed (or couch, or heck, I bet the kitchen floor would suffice.)

Also, around 8:04am, a spooky, gurgly, other-worldly sound emerged through the guggie from the deep, twisting caverns of my dear son's digestive system. He has been peacefully sleeping on my lap ever since.


11 comments:

Joanne said...

Poor Judah, Poor Mommy
Lack of sleep hasn't caused you to lose the ability to communicate or produce a beautiful photo. (He looks so much more like his big sister in this shot!) If I didn't stsill have this MIGRAINE I would come over and spell you :(

Chris said...

Bless your heart! It seems that every word you write has been on the tip of my tongue for years, a thought without expression. You speak for everymom!

Lynette said...

Ditto what your mom said... I'm amazed that you have the ability to write what you did... and that sweet picture! I'm sorry you had a rough night, that is why I didn't want a 4th, I LIKE SLEEP, but God had other plans and so one day I will to go without...

Megan said...

Wow. This humbles me. I've been feeling sorry for MYself this morning, as Ellis and I were bed buddies last night, and I spent the hours between 2-4AM thanking her for her blankie which she repeatedly offered me. (That, and pointing outside and calling "Oh!" with raised eyebrows at our paper-route neighbor's car.) If I had only know, we could have met up for coffee....

Anonymous said...

Maybe I'm not quite ready for #1!

Leslie said...

Wow, thanks for putting things into perspective. I too had an interesting (and LONG) night with my little man and have been feeling sorry for myself all day. Thanks for sharing your moment of clarity.

Sarah said...

Oh Beck- how quickly those times pass though and how quickly we forget how bad they were. As I read your post, I honestly tried to remember a sleepless night with one of my 3 kids, and miraculously, I can't. I know they were there, but I can't remember them. Isn't that sweet???? I LONG for a little precious baby like yours though asleep in my lap. Our computers aren't going anywhere... but boy, where did my babies go?

Stephanie said...

Becky- Once again you say what is on my mind... but in a much more eloquent way! Thank you for this reminder. I too, was up with Lily last night, this time for a stuffy nose. Sleeping on my chest in the rocker was the ONLY position that would allow any of us sleep. I will take a stiff neck and little sleep most days of the week to hang onto these moments. Before too long, I will be her embarrasement. ;)

Anonymous said...

Beautiful blog, beautiful picture! Thanks for reminding me that when my almost four year old gets up for a bowl of cereal in the middle of the night because he's having a growth spurt and must eat right. this. second...there are mamas doing far greater deeds then keeping a little one company while he slowly eats his Cheerios :)

Tami said...

Oh I can relate...if only daddies could strap on a boob! It would make our lives so much easier.

rak said...

Megan pointed me to this post...after I wrote one of similar measure :) You expressed it much better than I had and your words are SO TRUE.

thanks :)